Something New

It's got fruit in it. Totally legit!

I'm going to try something new and post a weekly training schedule on a new "page." I'll add the workout after I've done them and then start over on Monday with a new week. I'm hoping it spurs me into doing something. I really want to do a fall half ironman but my bed is so cozy at the moment.

Also in the new catergory, I went out with a new guy on Saturday. We visited the botanical gardens and then hit up my favorite bakery for coffee and cassata cake. It went well. Loads in common, never a lull in conversation. Still talking with a  plan for a second date, always a plus. We shall see...

Oh. Dear. Lord.

Michelangelo. He needs to go. I basically came to this conclusion shortly after he called and repented for calling and ending our "relationship" to get his shit together. But, he was hot and sweet.

But then he sent me two pictures of him holding his baby niece, with the tag "I think I'd make a great father." Really? A week and a half ago you couldn't handle dating.

I started this Saturday night but am publishing 2 days later.

I ended it with Michelangelo. He did not take it well. Apparently, I'm not considering his feelings on this. When did he want me to tell him I had no feelings for him? When he asked me to move in with him? At the wedding?

Exit Poll 1

Y'all! I got to administer my first exit poll this morning! And it was glorious.

Eye candy for the long post

Background: When Michelangelo called and said he needed to get his shit together with out me I pulled some one up that I was keeping in maintenance mode. We quickly started talking (for realz talking) and had a date set for Friday. Between first phone call and actually meeting the conversations were great. Funny, no odd silences, loads in common, I'm almost sold on this guy just need to meet for in person chemistry. Unfortunately, I had to cancel for a quick visit home and we rescheduled for the following day. Which he canceled due to his furnace breaking down (it's -20 with wind chill here) and the furnace people were coming during our date time. Finally, we agreed on dinner after work on Monday at a nearby Indian place. Except it was closed when I got there. No problem there was a great Chinese place down the street. After all these issues I should have know this was doomed.

And finally we meet. He's attractive, which was kind of in the air. He had three pics on his profile all either really far away or basically pitch black. I could make out enough to know that he wasn't hideous but that was about it. Slightly more gray than in the pics but I like that. I felt the whole thing went well but there was a point where it kind of shifted but not dramatically. It was a bit short, 45min, but I thought that maybe it was because I was heading out on a 2 hour drive to my parents. As the date ended we set up a second date for today, Saturday.

And now the whole flow changes. I get one word answers to texts. He didn't pick up when I called. All in all, not a huge deal. We were both were taking care of parents that had surgery this week (mine is doing very well), along with trying to get our normal jobs done. I finally sent a text yesterday asking about his father's surgery and about getting together today. CRICKETS!!!

I'm blue

24 hours later, first thing this morning, I get a reply. Which I didn't need. 24 hours, one date, one word answers, I don't need a flow chart to see that this is not going to happen. But his text says, "I don't see this going long term."  Which is cool, but there has to be an actual reason. Is it because I scheduled a 2 hour drive after the date? The chicken that got stuck in my teeth? The fact that I ordered a glass of wine before he got there? Am I fatter than he expected? Is it the edgy/half shaved head?



And so I asked. It's that I work with mice. MICE!!!??! Fucking MICE?! He's scared of mice and I work with them. (side note, I don't do a lot with mice. And they are all humanely treated) We got on the subject because he asked how my day at work was and that day happened to involve a scheduling issue with an animal study. After I told him about it he informed me that he does not like mice and I'd like to think I stopped talking about them but I can't promise. And looking back, that's when the winds changed ever so subtly.

On one hand, to me, this is ridiculous. I don't have to talk about my work with animals. I don't bring them home with me and you would never know if I don't say anything. It doesn't effect him. On the other hand, I didn't date a guy because he hummed when he ate. Or the guy that repeatedly said, "like I was saying," when he wasn't saying shit. And basically, all the overly needy dudes. All of these are ridiculous reasons but all of them directly effect me. I would have to hear hummer dude at every meal, every day, for the rest of my life.

You're welcome

Also, I don't understand fear. I get fear of terminal illness, fire, basically life or death things. Spiders? Snakes? Rodents? Bring it. Save my cat from a house fire? On it. Patch my roof? Drive through a snow storm? Vacation alone? Done it. I have a friend that would probably like to point out at this point that I refused to go into a hypothetical cave to save her from a Hellbeast. But that was a mathematical conclusion. I am not Katnis, the odds would never be in my favor in that situation. The likelihood of both of us surviving that is low and if I needed her to save me from said Hellbeast I would hope she would just save herself. But everyone, with the exception of the Winchesters, are afraid of Hellbeasts.

In conclusion, my first exit poll is a success. It is nice to know that there really was nothing I could have done to change this outcome. It saves me a lot of time from wondering. In fairness, he could have lied but why would he? We will NEVER EVER see each other again. AHHH! Peace of mind.

Dirty or no?

Is this supposed to be dirty? I can't tell. If it helps this is first contact from him.

One Spark

Have you ever noticed that when you talk to people about dating some one they ask, "did you feel a spark?" Everyone just refers to one spark but I thin there are two, a physical spark and a mental spark.  I've never really thought about it until this second date with Michelangelo. Obviously, I feel the physical spark but I really don't feel the mental spark with him.  And, thinking back there are very few guys that I've dated that I've felt both. All of the guys that have lasted more than a month or two have been guys that lit both sparks. I'd be willing to move this guy into booty call column but I don't get the feeling from him that he would be ok with that.

This is going to be a wait and see situation.

ps I had a date with a different dude last night and while it was brief I feel that it went well. I'll have more updates on that situation after this weekend if we do a second date as talked of.

pps, I' not feeling any spark on the running/workout front. But my schedule is a bit effed up at that moment. I've been traveling back and forth between Cleveland and my hometown. I always do best with a consistent schedule. That should start Thursday.

Exit Poll

If you think about relationships, any kind for that matter, they are basically like elections. You put up a profile with your qualifications, what you're looking for, and a (hopefully) recent picture. Or, you show yourself in the best possible light to others in your social circle, at the bar, in school, or at the book club. You are asking someone to commit to a relationship for a month, half a year, a couple of years or "to infinity and beyond."

Like elections you can opt not to continue said relationship. It can be as easy as defriending on facebook, slowly phasing them out of the circle, having a blow out and walking away, or just being "eh, you add nothing to my life. I'm done."

Wouldn't it be nice if you could administer an exit poll? Maybe not for all of those that walk away, especially for those in which the answer is very VERY clear. But for some others it's not so much. The ones that say "you're a great girl but the timing is just off. I'm technically still married and really need to get my shit together." (For the record, I completely agree with this statement, he was just sooo hot!)

Is it really that? Or, that I wouldn't facetime you? I'm honestly curious. I completely respect their right to walk away and go find their self. I did it once, took two years. I've also used this excuse when it was nicer than saying, "If I have to eat with you one more time, I'm going to stab you."

So, the exit poll is where they can be completely honest because it would come with an agreement not to stalk, harm or in anyway go crazy because of the answer (I would never). Also, for the record, I am a researcher and really interested in the how's and why's. I think I should make up a questionaire to be used when the next relationship ends. Just to be prepared. Cause I'm also a planner.

It might make me a better person. I mean, I'm awesome, I know, and seven people will attest to that but there's always room for improvement.

***Just to be clear about the guy that inspired this post. We were not in a relationship, it was one date. But the excuse made me think.

UPDATE: After 24 hours he apparently re-evaluated his decision and called me back asking to meet up again. I said yes (the dude is that hot) but it kind of irks me.

Winter Vacation

I was officially on vacation for nine days!! My goal was to work out all or most of those days.
Here's how it went down.

Saturday: Had to fix a toilet, get a hair cut (all before 10am). Then hung out all day for "Girls of Leisure Day."
Sunday: Recovered from "Girls of Leisure Day."
Monday: Cycle class and did Barbara WOD.
Tuesday: 3mile run, evening with friends.
Wednesday: Christmas eve, Yoga.
Thursday: Christmas.
Friday: Shopping (I want to brag here: I got 3 work tops, 3 workout tops and a pair of running capris for $4 total!!).
Saturday: 2 mile run, wanted 3-4 but it was HARD!!
Sunday: Cycle class and Yoga