Sorry Continued

Earlier this week I got a notice that a Friend of mine tagged me in a VIDEO for me to watch.
If more guys watched this, we'd all be safer!

TRUTH

I can't tell you how many times this has been said to me.
And how many times I just want scream at the person saying it. 

Last months Runners World has an article, Ultra, that hits home in every way. I found myself wanting to highlight paragraphs for later. Wanting to cut out sections and frame them for daily affirmations. Everything this woman says speaks to me and my life.

The gist of the article is this, can you be fit and still be fat? The article follows an obese woman who runs ultras. She may not come in first but she also doesn't come in last. As I was reading it I wished that I had a highlighter with me. It is one of only a handful of RW articles that I have read multiple times.

I'm just going to leave it here with a few clips.

On a side not: I was talking with my nutritionist (did I tell you I have one now?) and she asked about my activity. I said I was getting back into the swing of my old 2years ago routine but running was still in issue. I wasn't running any long distances, you know just 4 miles. She side eyed me and said 4 miles is a long distance. Which I suppose is true but I'd like to get back to easy 10s.

Sorry, I'm Not Sorry

I know I've posted before about unsolicited dic pics. I find them extremely annoying.

You get a notification that you've got a text.
You open it expecting a "Good morning!" or "Hey, what are you up to today?"
And SURPRISE!! Here's my penis!
It's 9 o'clock in the fucking morning. I haven't heard from this guy in a little over a week mostly because he invited me to do something with him and then basically rescinded the offer within minutes because it would take me 45min to get to where he was. Which really pissed me off and I washed my hands of him. Also, I haven't seen him in over a month. And I actually haven't seen his penis in person. By the way, we had ONE date!

Here is my reaction:

I've kept a hint of said penis but removed most of it.
Not to protect him but to protect you. Cause nobody needs to see that.
I'd also like to point out that even if I had seen it in person I still would
not want it on my phone.

I had started to type "I'm sorry but..." But I wasn't sorry. He should be the one that is sorry and clearly he wasn't. I've found myself saying "I'm sorry but..." for a lot of things and have to stop myself. Why do a vast majority of women feel the need to be sorry for being assertive? This ARTICLE......

"I think it's because we haven't addressed the deeper meaning of these "sorry." To me, they sound like tiny acts of revolt, expressions of frustrations or anger at having to ask for what should be automatic. They are employed when a situation is so clearly not our fault that we think the apology will serve as a prompt for the person who should be apologizing.

It's a Trojan horse for genuine annoyance, a tactic left over from centuries of having to couch basic demands in palatable packages in order to get what we want. All that exhausting maneuvering is the etiquette equivalent of a vestigial tail."

is brilliant and I have resolved to stop being sorry for my feelings. My rights. My thoughts.
You may also want to check out this Amy Schumer sketch. You could also just google "women stop saying I'm sorry," and pull up a multitude of recent articles on the phenomenon.

(I also just noticed that my blog title begins with an apology, but I'm not changing it.
CAUSE I'M NOT SORRY!)