Exit Poll

If you think about relationships, any kind for that matter, they are basically like elections. You put up a profile with your qualifications, what you're looking for, and a (hopefully) recent picture. Or, you show yourself in the best possible light to others in your social circle, at the bar, in school, or at the book club. You are asking someone to commit to a relationship for a month, half a year, a couple of years or "to infinity and beyond."

Like elections you can opt not to continue said relationship. It can be as easy as defriending on facebook, slowly phasing them out of the circle, having a blow out and walking away, or just being "eh, you add nothing to my life. I'm done."

Wouldn't it be nice if you could administer an exit poll? Maybe not for all of those that walk away, especially for those in which the answer is very VERY clear. But for some others it's not so much. The ones that say "you're a great girl but the timing is just off. I'm technically still married and really need to get my shit together." (For the record, I completely agree with this statement, he was just sooo hot!)

Is it really that? Or, that I wouldn't facetime you? I'm honestly curious. I completely respect their right to walk away and go find their self. I did it once, took two years. I've also used this excuse when it was nicer than saying, "If I have to eat with you one more time, I'm going to stab you."

So, the exit poll is where they can be completely honest because it would come with an agreement not to stalk, harm or in anyway go crazy because of the answer (I would never). Also, for the record, I am a researcher and really interested in the how's and why's. I think I should make up a questionaire to be used when the next relationship ends. Just to be prepared. Cause I'm also a planner.

It might make me a better person. I mean, I'm awesome, I know, and seven people will attest to that but there's always room for improvement.

***Just to be clear about the guy that inspired this post. We were not in a relationship, it was one date. But the excuse made me think.

UPDATE: After 24 hours he apparently re-evaluated his decision and called me back asking to meet up again. I said yes (the dude is that hot) but it kind of irks me.

Winter Vacation

I was officially on vacation for nine days!! My goal was to work out all or most of those days.
Here's how it went down.

Saturday: Had to fix a toilet, get a hair cut (all before 10am). Then hung out all day for "Girls of Leisure Day."
Sunday: Recovered from "Girls of Leisure Day."
Monday: Cycle class and did Barbara WOD.
Tuesday: 3mile run, evening with friends.
Wednesday: Christmas eve, Yoga.
Thursday: Christmas.
Friday: Shopping (I want to brag here: I got 3 work tops, 3 workout tops and a pair of running capris for $4 total!!).
Saturday: 2 mile run, wanted 3-4 but it was HARD!!
Sunday: Cycle class and Yoga

Facetime

Well, I have just come upon a new crevasse in the dating world. I blame Al Gore, the Internet, and this whole technology thing.

Last week I went out for drinks with this very, VERY hot guy. We'll call him Michelangelo. WE met on Cupid emailed a bit and since I was going out of town for a little over a week I thought it would be nice to meet before I left instead of trying to drag out the email and texting with an unknown entity. We've texted a bit since I've been at my parents for the holidays and we chatted a brief bit today.

BUT! I have since gotten a text asking to FaceTime later tonight!

I don't FaceTime. I think I've done it twice, maybe three times. And all of those are with my parents or sister, one by accident. I recently group FaceTimed a GREAT friend in Texas with a couple of others that were all in town for the holidays. That is what I consider an awesome use of it.  Not to chat up a guy I just met. It's not that I don't want to talk to him, I just don't think he's ready for the "real" me. And by real I mean sans makeup, in pjs, hair pulled back, mowing down cookies. I refuse to put makeup on for a phone call. It's sweet that he wants to but it was one date, I'm on vacation, and I just don't think now is the time for it. Maybe when we're in three months and I'm traveling for work for 2 weeks.

For now I haven't answered the text. I haven't even officially read it.

UPDATE: I felt I needed to answer him and wrote, "I'm not a huge fan of FaceTime. I'm really sorry but can explain more in person when we meet up on Sunday." Waiting on reply.

UPDATE 2: He says he understands and that it's cool. But texting never conveys sarcasm well, so who knows. I did reply with a "thank you. You're very understanding. smiley face"

Could THIS Be My Problem?

I saw this article and thought, "Hallelujah! I'm saved." And then I thought back to how and when my achilles pain started. I had had my shoes for a good 9 months. Not super broken in cause I did not run a lot last year but long enough that it probably wasn't the drop. I did buy new shoes thinking I needed new ones and went with a different company, so....I suppose it could be a cause of the continued problem.

I might try an insert in both shoes. I'll let you know how it goes.

With the New Year...

I don't like New Years resolutions. I'm sure I've said that here before and the reason is, if there is something worth doing you should do it no matter what time of year the idea hits you. And the idea of a "resolution" just seems like so much pressure.

BUT THIS YEAR.... I'm still not making a resolution. I will, however, use the date as a starting point.  A point to get back to the old me. The me of a year and a half ago. The me before my DNF, before my injury. The me that was so motivated to finish a 1/2 ironman that it really changed my habits.

I feel that I lost a lot of this motivation when I got injured. It made running painful and based on advice I stopped everything for a month. And it still didn't get better. I realize that during this time I gave up on a lot of other things. Swimming, why could't I swim? I didn't but I could have. I gave up on eating REALLY healthy. I ate relatively healthy. If you compare it to "average America." But I could have eaten better. I suppose my thought process was, "if I can't run/work out, what's the point?"

I'm off work for a whole week during Christmas and my plan is to reread this SUPER motivating book, get back into consistant running/working out. I won't attempt to eat super healthy at this time, it's pointless with my mother's christmas cookies, visits with friends, and holiday parties. But January 1st it's on!!

What happened to the bad ass me? I WANT her back.

Turkeys!!

This Thanksgiving I ran in a 5K Turkey Trot. It is officially the longest I've run since my achilles acted up and the longest I've run without walking.

After physical therapy I was doing 2min walking and 1min running for a mile, then 1.5, then 2. I slowly upped it to 1min walking 2min running. Then a quarter of a mile running with a brief walk. To half a mile. To 3/4 of a mile. BUT!! For the Turkey Trot I ran about 1.5 miles at a time with brief walks. And my pace was in the 10:30 when actually running.

I was worried that I may have over done it when my achilles hurt a fair bit after the run. But It's been pretty good provided I stretch couple of times a day.